Should I propose on the holiday?
I would like to just put it out there that I am not here to tell you what to do. This whole thing is just my two cents on what to think about before proposing during the holidays. Ultimately it’s your choice to propose on a holiday. I mean, why not? It’s a festive season. Most everyone is in a festive mood and there are decorations galore. The "on the fence" personality in me really shines here! This is because I am going to give you all the things to think about prior to making the decision to propose during the holidays. I really have no Do or Don't do guidance for you here. Just some things to consider before making your final decision.
If you weren't already confused... you're welcome. But really, what I want you to take away from this are some good ideas and things you might not have thought about before committing to the timing of your proposal.
Here are a few considerations before choosing to propose during the Holiday:
1.) You know what to get her for Christmas, right?
Don't let this be a cop out for buying her gifts. If you are going to propose put some creativity and purpose behind it. Don’t let it be because you don’t know what else to get her.
2.) Are you proposing just because the season's got your spirit lifted?
You want to make sure that you are not just feeling the holiday season a little too much and are making a decision because you feel good in the moment. Consider proposing during the holiday if you've already had the want to propose during the season, not just because the season has you feeling good. Last minute decisions are not usually good decisions.
3.) Is the holiday enhancing your proposal or are you overshadowing the holiday?
Don’t let your proposal be clouded by the festivities of the holiday season. We are all for using the season to your benefit, duh. Let's face it, it’s almost like everyone has set up this season for you already, why not take advantage of it. Plus, if the holiday season is special to her and/or the both of you, why not take advantage. Just make sure you're using the the holiday to your benefit.
4.) What is your timing like?
Timing is everything. You might have already decided to plan your proposal during a big holiday, great! Let's think about when you want to do it. Before all the festivities begin would be great for your own sake. It's a good time of year, try not to make it a disaster with the wrong timing. I will say having your engagement on a separate day from a direct holiday, family celebration, or festival is a much better choice than trying to combine your special proposal day close to or on any of these other days.